Drug use and unknown sickness-How can I stop worrying about my father?
★TouchedByAnAtheist★ asked:
He’s a meth addict for decades now, He’s been sick for quite a while lost his teeth gets these sores on his face and looks like a walking corpse..Yet he refuses to go to the hospital. His face was swollen and would go down for like a week now and he finally made it to the hospital today, unfortuneately he doesn’t have insurance so there is another worry there…I’m ready for the worse as it’s easy to see that he’s dying of who knows what I can’t help but to feel awful for my mother..who has stood by this looser for over 20 years..what can I do? I’m so sad.
stained glass
He’s a meth addict for decades now, He’s been sick for quite a while lost his teeth gets these sores on his face and looks like a walking corpse..Yet he refuses to go to the hospital. His face was swollen and would go down for like a week now and he finally made it to the hospital today, unfortuneately he doesn’t have insurance so there is another worry there…I’m ready for the worse as it’s easy to see that he’s dying of who knows what I can’t help but to feel awful for my mother..who has stood by this looser for over 20 years..what can I do? I’m so sad.
stained glass
June 25th, 2009 in
Other - Diseases | tags: Addict, Decades, Drug Use, Face, Hospital Today, Insurance, Sad, Teeth, Walking Corpse, Worry
children health
Sorry to hear about your dad, hon~
Simply let the MD do their work up on him…they will assess his health, and ability to recover, after that, take the recommendations you receive from the healthcare team and try to support your mom with her emotional needs.
It’s sad, but sometimes the ‘children’ of these parents are the only ones who can see the forrest through the trees. If your mom has been around this on and off for the better part of 20 years, she may be in the role of an ‘enabler’, and is likely part of the “problem” (not because she intended to be, but because she might have felt helpless in the situation).
It’s very difficult to go through these times for anyone, and all addictions have different root causes…psychological reasons and family history that could predispose a perso to addictive traits.
Make sure you aren’t blaming yourself for any of this, and perhaps join Ala-Non if you haven’t already. Mom might attend and find strength in that, especially if you go together.
Tough love is well, TOUGH, but it sounds like for your dad to recover, he may be in need of a fast-track course of it in order to save his life or preserve any quality in the time he has left.
Hang in there..!
fatburners
I think the best thing you can do is just be there for your mom. Your support will help her get through whatever happens. I’m sure to her he is not a loser, love is blind! Good Luck!